The Pocket with Chris Griffin

#114: Michael Smoak: The Harsh Truth About Love Men Fear To Admit

The Pocket with Chris Griffin

Show Notes

Big claim: one of my favourite episodes of the year. Michael Smoak (@higherupwellness) returns to the show.

If you liked the first time Mike came on, you wont be disappointed with this one. Completely different conversation, yet an absolute banger.

Something about the synergy we have together is one I’m beyond blessed about.

This episode was all about relationships, love, overcoming hardship, the battles that a man has and so much more.

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https://www.instagram.com/higherupwellness/

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https://www.instagram.com/morechrisgriffin/

Chapters:

00:00 A man’s biggest challenge

11:00 An explanation of a mans biology

16:00 Defining lust

20:00 What a man and women need to be intimate

29:00 Difference between confidence and ego

35:00 The difficulty of submission when you’re winning

39:00 Inaction is selfish

44:00 The new drug

53:00 Why your body is screaming at you

59:30 Impacts of suppressed emotions

1:06:00 The key to deep connection

1:14:00 Zooming out the time horizon

1:30:00 The gap between you and happiness

1:35:00 Why do we keep suffering on purpose?

1:38:20 Imposter syndrome

1:45:00 Losing someone you gave your all to… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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