Show Notes
Hello hello everyone, I have another amazing guest for you all this week. I sat down with my good friend Emme who is a performer, podcaster, writer, artist, comedienne, clown, transwoman, and lesbian - although not necessarily in that order - for a conversation all about clowning, and what it means to make fun of yourself. We also talked about holding the paradox of existing as a queer human in an increasingly scary world, and took a deep dive into IFS therapy and parts work. Basically, it was the most low key and casual conversation ever. We didn’t plan any part of this conversation but it took us to so many interesting places and I can’t wait for y’all to listen to it!
Emme's Links: Emme’s GoFundMe: bit.ly/emmekay Emme’s Podcast: Embracing Elephants on Spotify & Apple Instagram: @EmbracingElephants
Other Links:
AuDHD Summer Camp: https://www.jesdiverges.com/audhdsummercamp Jes’s Website: https://www.jesdiverges.com Jes’s Email: [email protected]
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Transcript Document: https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts
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