Show Notes
This episode deals directly with suicide and suicide bereavement. If that's not where you're at today, give yourself permission to sit this one out or come back to it when you're ready. Support details at the end of these notes.
Clayton and Suran are back, and this week they cover a lot of ground. Millie is 47, happily partnered, and has been quietly faking orgasms to end sex when she's tired -- not because anything is wrong, exactly, but because her partner can go all night and sometimes she simply cannot. Now she's stuck in a pattern she can't walk back without a conversation that will make him mentally replay everything.
Then there's a letter from a bloke who lost a close mate to suicide not long ago. He's carrying the grief, the shock, and real anger. And then guilt about the anger. On top of all that, he's somehow ended up as the strong one with no obvious place to put his own feelings.
In the AMA, Clayton talks through his sliding door moments -- the chances he didn't take -- and Suran considers the stereotype she least wants to become.
If this episode has brought anything up for you, please reach out: Free call or text 1737 any time for support from a trained counsellor. Depression helpline (24 hours a day, 7 days a week): free phone 0800 111 757 or free text 4202. Suicide Crisis Helpline: free phone 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO). Lifeline: free phone 0800 543 354 or free text 4357 (HELP). Samaritans crisis helpline: free phone 0800 726 666 if you are experiencing loneliness, depression, despair, distress or suicidal feelings.
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