
Show Notes
Have you ever sat down to write, stared at your document for approximately 30 seconds, and then immediately reached for your phone? Yeah, me too. In this solo episode of No Mess, No Magic, we're talking about something I've been thinking about a LOT lately: Is our relationship with short-form content making it harder to actually enjoy writing? There's an informal term for this called digital anhedonia, and while it's not a clinical diagnosis, it raises an interesting question: When our brains get used to the endless novelty and instant gratification of scrolling, what happens when we sit down to do something that requires sustained attention, patience, and (gasp!) a little boredom? We're also talking about what I like to call writer nirvana—that magical flow state where writing feels effortless and you could happily spend hours with your characters. I LOVE that feeling. But what happens when we start expecting every writing session to feel that way? In this episode, I'm sharing some practical ways to rebuild a more enjoyable relationship with writing, including how to create distance from your phone, embrace the slower rewards of creativity, tolerate frustration, and stop treating boredom as a sign that something is wrong. Plus, I'm kicking things off with some BIG personal updates! I'm officially a published fiction author, I've been experimenting with short stories, we filled the first round of The Query Lab, and I'm going back to school! Learn more about Lauren, who is an expert on The Enneagram and works with writers: bio.site/laurenmwrites Website: https://monicahay.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicahayauthor/
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Curious about the summit? It runs October 16-19th!