
Allostatic Load and the Impact on Autistic & AuDHD Daily Practice & Habits
Wired Divergent: Unmasking, Confidence & Regulation for Autistic AdultsShow Notes
If you understand your neurodivergent nervous system better than most people you know and still can't make a daily practice or a new habit stick, there are still elements from your life that you can adjust to work with how your brain is wired. This episode breaks down why understanding alone doesn't change neurodivergent nervous system patterns, and some ideas that can lead to a personal system that actually helps. However... for late-diagnosed autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults, the problem is rarely a shortage of information. Allostatic load, predictive processing, and variable executive function all play into why it's hard to get something new to repeat day to day. I get into why a regulated state can feel wrong to a nervous system used to dysregulation, why conventional advice like "just do it every day" doesn't work for many of us, and how attaching a new practice to something your body already does can potentially make a difference for certain things. I also cover external scaffolding, body doubling, co-regulation, and the social baseline research behind why a safer person in the room changes how the nervous system regulates. CHAPTERS: CHAPTERS: 0:00 Why understanding your nervous system isn't enough 0:23 How naming the experience lowers self-blame 1:56 Allostatic load and the depleted resource pool 3:51 Why feeling regulated can register as wrong 5:20 Executive function as an unreliable daily resource 6:45 What helps, and why a few minutes daily beats one hour a week 8:00 The resilient zone 9:46 The water canteen experiment 12:14 Attaching practices to routines you already have 14:10 External scaffolding and relational support 17:31 Building this into your own life and where coaching fits RESOURCES & LINKS: More on what I found in polyvagal theory: https://jendehaan.com/blog/is-polyvagal-theory-debunked-2026/ Neurodivergent coaching (1:1): https://jendehaan.com/coaching Group Programs: https://jendehaan.com/offscript/ (introductory program coming soon, check site for other options in future) Resources and blog posts: https://jendehaan.com Podcast version and regulation practice episodes: https://jendehaan.com/wired-divergent Newsletter signup: https://jendehaan.com/newsletters
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