Imposter Syndrome Expert - This Trap Makes Capable People Feel Like Frauds (w/ Erin Buttermore)
Don't Let The Old Man InShow Notes
In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, Erin Buttermore makes her second appearance on the show to dive back into the imposter phenomenon, including how it creates a "capability trap" that follows people as they grow their success.
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CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro 02:47 The paradox: it never counts either way 05:06 Why imposter feelings get worse the higher you go 08:38 When the whole organisation runs on your nervous system 10:26 Self-handicapping: the other way we protect ourselves 13:08 The first question to ask yourself 14:44 We mistake distress for discipline 16:36 Achieving through yourself vs achieving through others 19:31 What this costs your family 25:32 How ambition changes in midlife 28:02 Escape fantasy or a genuine change of direction? 33:17 The two conversations to have with yourself 35:09 Why letting go is the hardest part 39:53 Self-compassion has a terrible PR problem 46:25 Shame is a very expensive fuel source 47:46 The three steps 49:13 Setting standards for the things that actually matter 57:46 What people won't let go of 58:59 Listener question: imposter in one part of life 01:01:26 The price you pay for growth
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