EP323: How to reverse the shift from "fun" drinking to "coping with stress" drinking
It's Not About the AlcoholShow Notes
Most women measure alcohol consumption by how much and how often they drink. But the research says the most important predictor of whether your drinking becomes a real problem isn't about the amount you drink — it's why you drink. In this episode, I tell the story of the exact day I became a daily drinker — and why I didn't even know it happened. I break down the neuroscience of why drinking to reduce stress is the fast pass to addiction, even if you're not drinking more than anyone else. In this episode, you'll learn: Why your reason for drinking matters more than how much you drink
The neurological shift that turns a social drinker into a dependent one — and why it's invisible from the outside
How your brain works like an algorithm that quietly narrows your options one drink at a time
The science of why alcohol actually creates stress instead of relieving it (and the cortisol cycle that explains your 3am wake-up)
Why "tolerance" isn't a flex — it's a symptom of something you need to understand
The litmus test that reveals whether you can actually take it or leave it
What the largest study of its kind (43,000+ people) says about how fast stress drinkers develop dependence
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