Show Notes
Today on the podcast we have Melina Charis. She is a writer and mentor for women moving through grief and heartbreak. She has 10+ years experience with ceremonial + somatic healing practices and 6+ years experience holding space for others, but her greatest teachers by far have been motherhood, death, grief and life itself. We cover: Grieving breakups, death, identity shifts, and more. How unprocessed grief manifests in daily life. The ways grief can resurface years later. Understanding that grief is an ongoing process. What it truly means to process grief. Different healing approaches and ways to move through grief.
*Find Melina’s offerings at melinacharis.com and read her writing at [/14b27051b990809ab0a4e21d62ab80a3?pvs=25]melinacharis.substack.com.
*Learn about attachment Coaching with JessicaHERE.
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