Jealous of a Friend? Here's What That Feeling Is Actually Telling You
Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually TakesShow Notes
Ever feel both happy and also … a little jealous when a friend shares good news? I experienced this dichotomy the other night, when my friend shared a success. I found myself performing enthusiasm while dealing with conflicted emotions; I wanted that kind of success, too. Did this make me a bad friend for feeling something other than pure joy for her? In this episode I talk about jealousy in friendship: how it happens, for all things big and small; the different ways it might manifest; and ho...
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