Show Notes
Most people ask, "Why do I feel shame?" This episode asks a far more dangerous question: "Why shame now?" Through a listener's email, Gary explores how shame quietly becomes certainty, familiarity, and a way of life. This isn't about fixing your feelings. It's about exposing the world those feelings have built - and the simple course of action that begins to take you beyond it.
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