Why You Negotiate Better at Work Than at Home — And How to Change That with Attia Qureshi

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If you’ve ever found yourself doing everything at home—managing schedules, picking up the slack, remembering all the little details—and then wondering why you feel so exhausted and resentful… you’re not alone.

So many working moms carry the emotional load without even realizing it. Not because they want to—but because it feels easier in the moment to just handle it yourself.

But over time, all those “small things” add up.

In this episode, I’m talking with negotiation expert Attia Qureshi about how the skills we often associate with boardrooms and big deals actually show up in our everyday lives—especially at home.

And more importantly, how learning to use those skills can help you move from doing everything yourself… to creating a true partnership.

This isn’t about becoming more demanding or confrontational.

It’s about understanding what you need, communicating it clearly, and building a home dynamic that feels supportive—for everyone involved.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why working moms often struggle to ask for help at home—even when they’re confident communicators at work

How unspoken expectations create resentment (and what to do instead)

The difference between being a “giver,” “taker,” and “matcher” in your relationships

A simple way to start shifting from doing everything yourself to shared responsibility

Why naming your emotions is the first step to better communication boundaries

How small moments of negotiation happen every single day—and how to use them to your advantage

The key mindset shift that turns conflict into collaboration

Why This Matters

When you’re constantly stepping in and taking care of everything, it might feel like you’re helping your family.

But what’s really happening is that you’re setting a pattern—one where you carry the weight, and everyone else assumes you’ve got it handled.

And that’s where mom burnout begins.

Learning how to communicate your needs, ask for support, and create more balanced dynamics isn’t just about getting help.

It’s about feeling seen, respected, and supported in your own home.

Resources Mentioned:

Never Settle: Negotiation Skills to Get What You Want by Atita Qureshi & John Richardson

Attia Qureshi’s Emotion Wheel

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