Show Notes
Botox has gone mainstream. Once exclusive to the celebrity class, it’s now marketed as routine beauty maintenance for women. When the widespread use of injectables is challenged, a common defence is “it’s her choice, and feminism is about choice, right?” But it's not that simple.
In this episode we pick apart 'choice feminism' - its origin and its impact, and we look at how to talk to our friends who get Botox with compassion and empathy.
When you picture yourself as a middle aged woman, what does she look like?
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No Worries If Not! is written, hosted and produced by Lily O'Farrell. The script editors were Jackie O'Farrell and Will Hilton, also produced by Will Hilton. Theme music composed by Meg Jenkins.
Sources:
The Double Standard of Aging, Susan Sontag (1972)
Job age discrimination for women starts at least 10 years earlier than for men, University of Liverpool - Professor Ian Burn (2023)
Actors warned to keep off the Botox, The Guardian (2003)
Dataclysm: Who We Are When We Think No Ones Looking, Christian Rudder (2014)
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