S1E3 - Habits, Rhythms, and Spiritual Disciplines for Intentional Fatherhood
The Intentional Fatherhood PodcastShow Notes
Before we can be fathers to our children, we must first learn to live as sons of the Father. The truth is, it’s impossible to be a good father — let alone an intentional one — without the power and presence of the Holy Spirit.
In this episode, we explore the essential role of spiritual disciplines in the life of a father. From kneeling prayer to spending what we call “luxurious wasted time in God’s presence,” we share personal rhythms and honest reflections — not lofty ideals, but grounded, consistent, doable practices that shape who we’re becoming as men and as fathers.
We talk candidly about the habits that form us, the spiritual reading that challenges us, and why your kids don’t just need your presence — they need a father who’s being formed. Because in the journey of spiritual formation, there is no neutral ground. As Romans 12:2 reminds us, we are either being conformed to the patterns of this world or being transformed by the renewing of our minds.
So choose something rather than nothing. Start small. Plant the seed — and trust that the Lord will grow it. Your habits may not earn God’s love, but His love should absolutely reshape your habits. Intentional fatherhood begins with intentional formation. And that starts with being a son.
Scripture Mentioned: Romans 12:1-2 + Romans 6:13
Books Mentioned: The Common Rule by Justin Whitmel Earley, Celebration of Discipline by Richard J. Foster + Prayer by Richard J. Foster
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