Show Notes
In this episode of House Calls, the Surgeon General talks with actress and activist Ashley Judd, who brings along three friends she calls sisters in her chosen family. This five-way conversation explores the meaning of friendship, trust, and supporting one another in times of joy and hardship. From experiencing daily life to the devastating death of Ashley’s mother, country singer Naomi Judd, Ashley and her chosen family have been there for one another in ways that demonstrate the power of intentional connection. Listen as Dr. Murthy asks why this group of women hold their chosen family so dear.
(02:32) Who is Ashley Judd’s chosen family?
(04:09) How Ashley and her chosen family met
(07:29) When Ashley’s mother died, how did her chosen family show up?
(12:28) How Ashley & Friends find safety and support in one another
(18:08) How do Ashley & Friends define chosen family?
(24:33) How often are Ashley & Friends in touch?
(30:10) How have Ashley & Friends navigated conflict?
(34:15) How do Ashley & Friends handle friendship despite differing beliefs?
(41:01) How do Ashley & Friends advise others to create a chosen family?
(46:42) What principles have Ashley & Friends established for their chosen family?
(51:55) What gives Ashley hope for the future?
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Ashley Judd
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About Ashley Judd & Friends
Ashley Judd is a Golden Globe and Emmy-nominated actress who navigates between indie gems and box office hits. A feminist and social justice humanitarian, she is UNFPA Goodwill Ambassador, advocating for sexual and reproductive rights for girls and women worldwide. She has traveled to 23 countries, visiting brothels, refugee camps, and slums, to learn about male sexual violence and gender inequality. Her New York Times bestselling book, “All That Is Bitter & Sweet”, chronicles these journeys.
Ashley earned an MPA from Harvard's Kennedy School of Government. Ashley was Time Magazine’s 2017 Person of the Year as one of the Silence Breakers. She was the first to go on the record about rapist Harvey Weinstein. In 2019, the United Nations honored her as Global Advocate of the Year. A survivor of multi-generational trauma and child rape, Ashley has been in recovery for 17 years. She is an advocate for survivors and those who live with mental illness in their families. Ashley believes trauma we do not transform is trauma we will transfer, and that a life of service begins with taking responsibility for one’s own healing.
Logan Raines has found that connection with others takes intention, and lasting friendships are essential to emotional health. Logan wears many hats- wife, mother of 3, and part-time photographer. When her father was diagnosed with dementia, Logan stepped into the role of manager for her parent’s estate. Logan holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Belmont University. She lives in Franklin, TN with her husband, Danny, their children, Luke, Lillian, and Drew, and beloved dog Coco.
Heather Raymond is a wife, mother of 3, and a full time Realtor. In her first year of being a Realtor she was named Rookie of the Year by Parks Realty in Middle Tennessee. Heather is an endurance athlete who has completed several Ironmans and ultra marathons. Heather and her husband Marc plan to retire in his home county of France and hope Luc (16) Audrey (13) & William (7) will visit frequently when that becomes a reality.
Samantha Andros is a career educator who recently finished her master’s degree in social work from Indiana University. Sam has worked for over 30 years as a teacher, mentor, and interventionist, supporting the goals of students facing hardship. Sam has been married for over 30 years to her husband Ed, and has 3 young adult daughters. Sam credits her friends' unwavering encouragement for her ability to maintain a meaningful life.
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