Show Notes
Episode 1: Tiny Joy for When Life Feels F***edwith Kate Baily and guest host Helen Lees Welcome back to the Love Sober Podcast — the podcast for the sober and sober curious. In this first episode of the new season, Kate is joined by new guest host Helen Lees for a heartfelt conversation about tiny joy — those small, sensory, grounding moments that can help us through grief, overwhelm, cravings, stress, and the sheer weight of life. Together, Kate and Helen explore how alcohol can disconnect us from real pleasure and presence, and how sobriety helps us gently rebuild a toolkit of comfort, connection and self-resourcing. They talk about grief, motherhood, nervous system care, sensory rituals, dopamine, play, cravings, and the surprising power of tiny things — from soft clothes and candles to pesto, poached eggs, cold water, dogs, lipstick and woodland light. This is an honest, compassionate conversation about finding anchors in difficult times, and learning how to stay in the solution, one small moment at a time. In this episode, we explore:
What “tiny joy” means in sober life Why small comforts matter in grief, stress and early sobriety How alcohol promises relief but disconnects us from real joy Building a sober toolkit for cravings and emotional overwhelm Sensory interventions and micro-pleasures that help regulate the nervous system Play, ritual, nature and self-parenting in recovery Why sobriety is about what we add in, not just what we remove
Mentioned in this episode:
The Embodied Queen Retreat with Rachel Brady and Cybele Botran Love Sober Life School — our 12-week spring/summer programme for sober and sober curious women
Reflection questions from this episode:
What does tiny joy mean to you personally? When have you noticed alcohol promising joy but disconnecting you from it? What small pleasures help interrupt cravings or bring you back to yourself?
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