Show Notes
Resentment rarely comes from one big moment. More often, it builds through the small things we don't talk about: the dishes, the forgotten gestures, the mental load, and the feeling that you're the only one making an effort.
I talk about how these everyday frustrations become evidence of deeper hurt, why unresolved conflict makes resentment grow, and how to repair the damage before years of disappointment turn into distance.
I talk about:
• How small moments of hurt build into long-term resentment
• The invisible mental load of maintaining a relationship
• Why the dishes are rarely just about the dishes
• How the stories we tell ourselves amplify frustration
• Asking for what you need before it becomes a demand
• Why conflict is inevitable but repair is essential
• Creating a safe space for difficult conversations
• Using empathy, self-awareness, and accountability to repair emotional wounds
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