Show Notes
What does a crisis reveal about the way you make decisions under pressure?
As Paul TenHaken built a thriving digital agency and later became mayor of Sioux Falls, the outside story looked like momentum, influence, and achievement, but underneath it were cash flow panic, purpose stagnation, and the cost of stepping into public leadership. A diner conversation with his wife, a political smear days before an election, and the chaos of leading through COVID forced him to confront what leadership costs when the money, reputation, and answers are no longer guaranteed. You’ll hear how Paul moved from success to significance, learned to lead without control, and rebuilt his view of work around calling, people, and the greater good.
Paul TenHaken is an entrepreneur, public servant, and leadership speaker who served as mayor of Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Before entering public office, he founded and grew a successful digital marketing agency, where he experienced the highs and pressures of entrepreneurship firsthand. As mayor, Paul brought a business-minded but people-first approach to city government, using EOS principles to improve accountability, meeting structure, and team alignment.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
(00:01:30) Why fast growth can still leave an entrepreneur wondering if it is time to quit and go back to a salary.
(00:04:23) How one billing mistake turned Paul’s digital agency into the bank for his clients.
(00:05:18) Why success, income, and flexibility still left Paul feeling unfulfilled.
(00:07:31) How writing his own obituary helped Paul confront the difference between success and significance.
(00:10:49) Why your job title can change while your calling stays the same.
(00:15:18) Why entrepreneurs are ultimately remembered for people and relationships more than profit or performance.
(00:22:51) How Paul brought EOS into city government to create clearer goals, stronger meetings, and real accountability.
(00:38:07) What Paul learned when public attacks, COVID, and crisis leadership pushed him to the edge.
Learn more about Paul TenHaken: https://www.siouxfalls.gov/government/council/council-members/paul-tenhaken
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