BITESIZE | Why Modern Relationships Feel So Hard (And What We've Been Getting Wrong) | Alain de Botton #692
Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan ChatterjeeShow Notes
We live in a culture that often celebrates the ‘perfect’ relationship but does little to prepare us for the reality of long-term commitment. Modern life is filled with idealised images of love and marriage – but the truth, as today’s guest suggests, is far more human, messy and ultimately hopeful.
Today’s Bitesize is from episode 574 of the podcast with author, internationally renowned philosopher, and founder of The School of Life, the wonderful Alain de Botton.
In this clip, Alain shares a refreshing perspective on relationships, why he believes love is a skill rather than just a feeling, and how changing our expectations could help us build deeper, more lasting connections.
There’s something deeply reassuring in knowing that love doesn’t have to look like the stories we grew up with. And by letting go of these cultural myths and by embracing each other’s flaws, we improve not only our relationships, but also how happy and contented we feel.
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