Show Notes
In this episode, we briefly review the food feedback loop and take a closer look at pain and desire feedback loops. If we fear a painful experience enough to escape it with food, our brains note that and determine that the pain is a threat. The more we try to muffle the pain with truffles, the more threatening the pain becomes. We shrink and the pain looms. And when the pain comes again, we're already laced up and ready to race. To not live to our full potential is to be alone inside ourselves, to lose hope in possibility, to watch dreams wash away. As Nelson Mandela once said, "There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living." Remember Captain Marvel from back in the day when he used to wear red tights with a gold lightning streak across his chest? Well, he just yelled, "Shazam! We have our positive feedback loop." Listen to episode 71 of The Done Bingeing Podcast where we go deeper into painful positive feedback loops that are so common among binge eaters and where we ponder the superhero in you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/71. I may not quite be Bat Woman, but if you flash the Bat Signal across the sky, I'll fly to your side. Go to https://www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.
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