Show Notes
If you’ve been doing all the “right” things and still feel stuck, this episode is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. I’m joined by my therapist, Chantale, who returns for a third time to help me unpack this in a way only she can.
Today we’re breaking down the #1 habit keeping you from achieving what you want, a habit she taught me that changed EVERYTHING for me, a habit so common most people don’t even realise they’re doing it…
This habit is the reason why you feel guilty saying no, why fear shows up every time you try something new. You’ll learn how to recognise when you’re operating from an inauthentic version of yourself, why your goals fall apart when they’re built on fear, and the neuroscience behind stepping outside your comfort zone.
This is a practical, grounded conversation about building self-trust, setting boundaries without guilt, dissolving limiting beliefs, and finally creating goals that feel true to who you are, not who you think you “should” be.
By the end, you’ll know exactly how to break this habit, stop abandoning yourself, and take the first aligned step toward the life you actually want.
This will unlock everything for you.
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TIME STAMPS
(01:17) Introduction
(02:55) Everything you need to know about people pleasing
(07:47) How do you deal with guilt and fear?
(12:30) How can you be giving without people pleasing?
(16:03) This is essential to do before goal setting
(20:35) Limiting Beliefs & Goal Setting
(25:57) How to push through limiting beliefs
(30:02) “I am not enough”
(31:30) Exercise to break through small limiting beliefs (not large traumas)
(35:11) Neuroscience for being outside of your comfort zone
(39:12) What you need to know about tolerance windows
(42:52) Rapid Fire
WHO AM I?
I’m Erika, an Australian living in Dubai, a mum and the creator and host of this podcast. After almost a decade in law, I’ve stepped into a new chapter centred on what I love - helping people understand themselves, grow and build lives that feel aligned. As someone with big ambitions, I’m passionate about pursuing what matters and to do so, we need to create our own lives intentionally. This channel is a space for honest conversations, curiosity and practical tools to support that journey. Welcome - I’m glad you’re here.
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