Why Porn Is an Intimacy Disorder (Not Just a Sex Problem), Sathiya Sam

Grief doesn’t always look like sadness. Sometimes it looks like anger, overworking, or feeling nothing at all. In this episode, I share 6 practical ways to process loss, stop numbing yourself, and move forward without pretending you’re fine. 00:00 The Fear That Stops Men From Really Living 03:58 The Hidden Cost Of Never Letting Yourself Get Hurt 06:13 Why Pretending You’re Fine Is Keeping You Stuck 08:41 How To Stop Numbing Yourself And Start Healing 10:53 Stop Trying To Be Who You Were Before 12:30 The Mistake That Keeps Men Trapped In Grief -Want more content like this? Sign up for the newsletter: https://mantalks.com/ -Subscribe to catch more podcast episodes right here, wherever you listen, or at: https://mantalks.com/podcast/ -The Lone Wolf era is over. Train your mind, body, and self with a worldwide group of like-minded men: https://mantalks.com/the-alliance/ *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

In this episode, I revisit four conversations about attraction, relationships, porn, and sexual confidence. I explore what men misunderstand about dating, how to stop competing with your partner, and what it takes to build real intimacy, from setting boundaries without anger to taking the pressure off in the bedroom. 00:00 Orion Taraban on Attraction, Modern Dating & The Truth About Love 20:20 Alison Armstrong on Why Couples Compete & How To Set Better Boundaries 40:01 Sathiya Sam on Breaking Free From Porn & Building Real Intimacy 59:03 Kate Moyle on Overcoming Performance Anxiety & Sexual Shame -Want more content like this? Sign up for the newsletter: https://mantalks.com/ -Subscribe to catch more podcast episodes right here, wherever you listen, or at: https://mantalks.com/podcast/ -The Lone Wolf era is over. Train your mind, body, and self with a worldwide group of like-minded men: https://mantalks.com/the-alliance/ *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep into the reality of the father wound and how it quietly disrupts our sense of self-worth and value as men. I explore the different ways this wound manifests—whether through a father who was physically absent, emotionally unavailable as a "ghost dad," or overly harsh—and how these experiences shape our adult identities. Finally, I share three actionable steps you can execute today to tell your real story, genuinely grieve your losses, and begin the vital process of re-fathering yourself. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Father Wound 00:01:51 - Defining the Father Wound 00:07:44 - The Three Types of Father Wounds 00:12:47 - How the Father Wound Shapes Your Identity 00:20:18 - The Core Identity Wound 00:21:32 - Step 1: Tell the Real Story 00:28:05 - Step 2: Allow Yourself to Grieve 00:32:38 - Step 3: Re-Father Yourself *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I sit down with mythologist Michael Meade to explore how the unraveling of modern culture and the rattling of nature invite us into a profound period of global transformation. We discuss the deep purposelessness many men face today due to the loss of traditional rites of passage, and how avoiding our pain leaves us vulnerable to a flattened, digital existence. Ultimately, Michael reveals how leaning into our original wounds can unlock the hidden genius and unique calling we each inherently possess. Join me for a powerful conversation on trusting your inner essence, escaping the illusion of artificial intelligence, and navigating the collapse with a reawakened heart. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 01:20 - Nature Rattling While Culture Unravels 05:18 - The Connection Between the Human Soul and Nature 13:38 - The Missing Rites of Passage for Modern Men 20:18 - Suffering in the Right Direction 26:38 - How Genius Hides Behind Your Deepest Wounds 35:21 - The Spontaneous Self vs. Social Conformity 41:21 - Deep Insecurity and the Fear of Not Fitting In 47:51 - Finding the Heart Within the Heart 52:05 - Techne vs. Gnosis: The Illusion of AI 57:38 - Apocalypse as Collapse and Renewal *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I dive deep into the root causes of the abandonment wound and how childhood disconnection leads directly to chronic self-abandonment in adulthood. I break down common side effects like people-pleasing, oversensitivity to criticism, and internalizing shame, which can quietly sabotage your relationships. Finally, I share clear, actionable steps you can start using right away—including building interoceptive awareness, learning to pause, and a 14-day self-prioritization challenge—to stop abandoning yourself and reclaim your inner truth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Self-Abandonment 00:01:16 - Understanding the Abandonment Wound and What Forms It 00:03:35 - The Side Effects of an Abandonment Wound 00:14:51 - How to Flip the Script and Address the Shame 00:20:38 - Separating Personhood from Behavior 00:22:56 - Shifting the Fault to Where It Belongs 00:25:46 - Building Interoceptive Awareness 00:28:48 - Installing a Pause Before You Respond 00:31:33 - The 14-Day Self-Prioritization Challenge *** Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram