
Episode 166 - HELD IN HIS + HER STORIES: Rebuilding trust in your marriage while TTC
Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.Show Notes
If we're honest… for a lot of us, TTC quietly turns our partner into a project. Did you take your vitamins? Don't get in the hot tub. Drink more water. Not that beer. Let me just manage literally everything so this can finally work. On top of tracking, appointments, and Google spirals… you end up carrying the mental load for you, your body, and your partner. And suddenly, the person you fell in love with feels more like… a fertility coworker you're constantly correcting. 😬 Today's podcast is medicine for that part of the journey. 🎧 New episode: Held in His & Her Stories — with my husband, Dan. In this episode, I bring my husband Dan (yes, the famous spreadsheet-loving money guy 😉) onto the mic to talk about: What happens in a marriage when control becomes your default survival strategy
How our differences (he's a doer, I'm a feeler) almost pulled us apart… and then became our superpower
Why healthy conflict is not a sign something's wrong, but the doorway to deeper intimacy
What it actually feels like, from a man's perspective, when he's being micromanaged vs. trusted
The quiet, very un-Instagrammable power of vulnerability — and how it made our marriage feel like a dream again (his words, not mine 🥹)
We also share really honest stories about resentment, asking for what you need, emotional check-ins, and the moment I stopped being "mom" to my husband… and started letting him rise as my partner again. If you've ever thought: "If I don't control this, it won't happen." "If I let go, everything will fall apart." "I'm exhausted from holding all of this by myself…" …this episode is for you. And if your partner is open to it, this is a beautiful episode to listen to together. Let it be a starting point for one honest conversation about what you each need right now. LISTEN NOW!
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Okay so this isn't one of those "just checking in 😇" message. It's the last day to join FMBM. Like, ever. No reopening. No "maybe later." It's *closing time* 🎶 And I wanted to send something that actually felt like me. Which is why I'm ending the HELD IN HER STORIES series with a story from a lovely FMBM graduate, Dana. Dana talks about how, very quickly into TTC, the pressure took over. How age narratives, fear, and scarcity turned something so special into an emergency. She joined FMBM because even more than wanting a baby, she wanted herself back. ⭐️How surrender sounded nice… but felt impossible. ⭐️How reading my book gave her the first sense of relief she'd felt in a long time. ⭐️And how joining FMBM didn't magically make things easy – but gave her a place where she didn't have to pretend she had it together – so she could unravel what wasn't working. What stood out most to me in this conversation is how clearly she describes the shift: Nothing changed because she tried harder. Things changed because she stopped fighting herself. FMBM gave her the space, support, and surrender to face the fear underneath the urgency, and to learn how to be with uncertainty w/o turning on herself. And guess what? She's now weeks away from giving birth 🥹 But the part that matters most to me? She learned how to trust herself before life resolved anything. That's the heart of Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. Not just getting pregnant. But knowing you can feel relief on the way to what you want the most. You can stop waiting to get your life back ❤️ So if you've been listening… reading… circling… If something in your body keeps saying this feels different — I just want you to know: This is the absolute last day to join Fertility Mind-Body Mastery. And my honest question for you is: Do you want to keep resisting this experience… or meet yourself inside it? 👉 LISTEN NOW!
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Ahhh – you don't want to miss this one! The 2nd episode in our HELD IN HER STORIES series is for the woman who's smart (Like, scientist smart), resourced, doing all the things… and still feeling anxious underneath it all. Today I'm talking to a member of FMBM with a PhD who came into fertility like it was a science experiment — 5 rounds of IVF, deep in the research, treating her body like a problem to solve. And then she walked through IVF and miscarriage… and had to learn how to trust her body again after loss. This convo is raw and so, so validating. We get into: That belief: "If I don't control every detail, it won't work" — and how it actually creates more contraction in the body
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