Stop Yelling, Start Getting Results: 5 Parenting Shifts That Actually Work
After Bedtime with Big Little FeelingsShow Notes
Why does your kid only listen when you FINALLY lose it and yell? Are you accidentally making meltdowns worse? And how the hell are you supposed to raise a confident, resilient kid when every day feels like one giant power struggle??
If you’ve ever asked your kid to put their shoes on 12 times, felt judged for accommodating their needs, or watched your kid get rejected by friends and wanted to march straight onto that playground yourself, this episode is for YOU.
Today, child therapist Deena is tackling the real-life parenting problems - sent in by the besties - that leave us exhausted, second-guessing ourselves, and wondering, “Am I handling any of this right?”
And she’s sharing the practical, research-backed shifts that can completely change how you handle them. We’re getting into:
Why yelling actually WORKS (and why that’s a problem): The surprising reason your kids ignore the first 14 requests, but magically listen when you explode - and how to break that cycle. The Halloween candy trap: The common mistake that can make your kid even MORE obsessed with sugar, and how to end the candy battles for good. Meltdowns, fears, and big feelings: What to do when your child is completely overwhelmed, and the simple preparation trick that can prevent a whole buncha meltdowns before they start in the first place. Sensory struggles vs. “giving in”: Is accommodating your child’s needs making them less resilient?? Deena gets personal about what she’s learned raising an autistic child. When your kid is excluded by friends: How to protect their confidence, know when to step in, and teach them to handle rejection without believing something is wrong with them.
Here’s the thing: You can be doing everything you THINK you’re supposed to do as a parent and still be making your life harder than it needs to be. Let’s take the pressure off and calm the chaos. Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs come from changing one small thing in how you respond.
This episode is packed with those moments - the kind that make you go, “WAIT. Why has nobody explained it to me like that before?!” And translate into real life results - less yelling, fewer power struggles, and more confidence in yourself AND your kids.
Press play. You’re going to want these tools in your back pocket.
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