hot pursuit by AsianBossGirl

being a bridesmaid: the bad, the bad, the ugly

hot pursuit by AsianBossGirl

Show Notes

bachelorette trips, bridezillas, & financial ruin... oh my! the girls of hot pursuit share some (a lot) of rants & woes about the exhausting experience of being a bridesmaid, but would we do it again for our best friends in every lifetime in a heartbeat.

0:00 reading listener nightmare stories

7:40 bridezillas and entitlement

9:50 bridesmaid makeup and dresses really ain’t it

16:04 unconventional bridesmaid approaches?

17:31 bachelorette trip faves & rants

27:32 would all of this exist without social media?

29:52 do the bride and groom deserve a gift?

32:04 shoutout to the maid of honors

35:02 welcome party exhaustion

38:35 where are the cute groomsmen?!

40:42 so, would we have bridesmaids?

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THE HOT PURSUIT PODCAST:

Hosted and written by: Jennifer Han, Emily Lin, and Madelyn Ong

Produced by: Hot Pursuit Media and AsianBossGirl

Edited by: Josh Jang

Theme song composed by: Shawn Halim

Art by: Kelsey Cordutsky

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