Dopamine Chasing: Why I Keep Buying Stuff I Don’t Need (Especially During Redundancy)
Now What? - Life after redundancyShow Notes
Feeling stuck? Buying things you absolutely don’t need? Wondering why Amazon drivers now greet you by name? Same. In this episode, I dive into the very real (and very sneaky) world of dopamine chasing — the quick hits, the impulsive spending, the “this will fix me” purchases we all make when life feels uncertain, especially after redundancy. We’re talking: 🎯 Self-soothing by shopping 🔄 The Amazon Prime shame cycle we pretend we’re not trapped in 🧠 The blurry line between comfort and coping 🎮 My completely unnecessary Nintendo Switch 2 upgrade 💭 And how nostalgia can tempt you into buying things that don’t actually help This isn’t a lecture from someone who’s nailed it — this is me admitting I get this wrong a lot and have to remind myself why the dopamine hit never actually solves the bigger “now what?” feeling that redundancy leaves behind. If the show has helped you, made you laugh, or just reminded you you’re not losing your mind… you can support it on Patreon. I run everything myself, and your support genuinely makes it easier to keep the podcast going (and keeps me from panic-buying more tech I don’t need). You can join here: patreon.com/cw/lifeafterredundancyIf you’re navigating job loss, low days, money worries, or just the overwhelming urge to buy something shiny to feel okay for five minutes… this one’s for you. And if you’re asking yourself now what? You’re in the right place.
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