How to Change Your Personality to Make Yourself More Confident | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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Today, we break down the science of confidence, why self-doubt isn’t always the enemy, and how understanding your specific doubt pattern can unlock lasting self-trust, without becoming someone you’re not.
In this conversation, I’m joined by Dr Shadé Zahrai, behavioural researcher, award-winning peak performance educator, and one of the leading voices on confidence, self-image, and self-doubt.
This is not about hype or surface-level confidence. It’s about rewiring how you see yourself.
✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode
* Why confidence is trainable, not fixed
* The role self-doubt actually plays in growth and performance
* The 4 Self-Doubt Types and how they show up in behaviour
* How to diagnose your own self-doubt profile (including mine, live)
* The everyday habit that quietly erodes confidence
* How posture, environment, and physicality shape self-belief
* How to tell the difference between useful self-doubt and self-sabotage
* Why your self-image is the blueprint for your entire life
* Practical tools to build confidence in real time
* How to set boundaries with negative people without losing yourself
When you change how you see yourself, your behaviour follows.
Confidence isn’t something you chase, it’s something you build.
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(01:43) Introduction / Background
(12:06) What is the role of self-doubt?
(17:26) Self Doubt Profiles
(25:48) Diagnosing Erika’s doubt profile
(30:22) Tools for improving self doubt
(47:49) This everyday habit is ruining your confidence
(53:28) Do you need to change your environment to achieve?
(57:53) Setting boundaries for loved ones who are negative
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I’m Erika, an Australian living in Dubai, a mum and the creator and host of this podcast. After almost a decade in law, I’ve stepped into a new chapter centred on what I love - helping people understand themselves, grow and build lives that feel aligned. As someone with big ambitions, I’m passionate about pursuing what matters and to do so, we need to create our own lives intentionally. This channel is a space for honest conversations, curiosity and practical tools to support that journey. Welcome - I’m glad you’re here.
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