Show Notes
In this episode, Nina and I are getting into the "Public vs. Private" debate when it comes to goal setting. We've all seen the quotes on Pinterest about "grinding in silence," but we've also seen the massive success of the "build in public" movement. So, which one is actually better for your sanity—and your success? We're talking about the "fear of being perceived," how to handle the "haters" (and the inner critic), and why you don't owe anyone a front-row seat to your journey before you're ready. If you've ever felt like your goals were too "soft" or "tender" to share with the internet, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we cover: The "Hater" Instinct: Why our first thought about sharing is often tied to judgment or jealousy.
Protecting the Process: Why keeping a project to yourself for the first few months might be the best thing for your confidence.
The Build-in-Public Pressure: Why "showing the messy middle" is popular right now, and why it's okay to opt out.
The "Safe Outlets" Alternative: Finding the middle ground between a private diary and a public Instagram post.
Discernment over "Shoulds": How to decide which goals need a community and which need a cocoon.
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