Show Notes
How can you be truly certain a father-in-law's money promise is a lie?
Rabbi Klapper goes deeper on the money question: before you can warn the boy's side that the girl's father is promising what he can't deliver, you must actually know it. The Chofetz Chaim gives three grounds: the family is genuinely, verifiably destitute (and even then, people hide money and outsiders rarely know a bank account); or you know the person firsthand to be sneaky, with bad midos and a history of broken promises; or you literally heard him say he has no intention of keeping his word. Only with real certainty may you reveal it. Remember, too, that a family that isn't rich will often be more moseir nefesh than a wealthy one to support a young couple in learning.
Precise, careful halacha - listen in and come back tomorrow.
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