#27 Betrayal Trauma and the Body: Why You Don’t Feel Like Yourself with Amber Dalton
Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalShow Notes
Betrayal isn’t just emotional — it’s physiological. After betrayal, many women describe feeling like they don’t recognize themselves anymore. Sleep is disrupted. Anxiety increases. Hormones feel off. Mood shifts. Energy drops. The body feels stuck in survival mode. Many begin to wonder… is this just stress, or is something actually happening in my body? In this episode, I’m joined by Family Nurse Practitioner Amber Dalton, who works closely with women navigating the aftermath of betrayal and emotional trauma. Amber shares why so many women feel physically “off” after betrayal, how chronic stress affects the body, and practical first steps for supporting both emotional and physical healing. We also talk about what whole-person healing looks like and why pushing through betrayal without addressing the body often keeps women stuck in survival mode. If you’ve been wondering why you don’t feel like yourself after betrayal, this episode will help you understand what’s happening — and remind you that your body is responding exactly the way it was designed to. Healing is possible. And it begins with understanding.
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Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:
Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Email Hali to join the Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.
Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!
Listen to My Other Podcast If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
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