
Show Notes
Sex, punk rock, and wrestling. What do these three things have in common? How is wrestling just a form of performance art? Destiny Laurice is a good friend/wrestler/artist/sex educator which is perfectly fitting for a Sagittarius sun, Taurus Moon, and Scorpio Rising. Destiny and I chat this week about the role of race, gender, economic status and representation in typically white cishet spaces. We discuss becoming comfortable with ourselves and being truly authentic online and our creative outlets and doing deep inner child work. Destiny also answers your sex and kink questions as we discuss everything from how to differentiate trauma responses from actual threats to creating boundaries for ourselves, yes/no/maybe lists and why BDSM can be so gosh darn healing. We also talk why cishet men often feel intimidated by sex toys & how they can begin to face their fears in the bedroom by getting over their egos. Self care tip of the week brought to you by: Diane
Books recommended on this episode: Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by: Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams-Haas The Ethical Slut by: Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
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