The Cheat Code to Building the Life You Actually Want ft. Karly de Lange
The Mom Flow with Erin SousaShow Notes
This episode is a full voice note catch-up, recommendation spiral, life reflection… and then a really powerful conversation with my sister Karly de Lange about finally giving yourself permission to go after the life you actually want. I give this one a solo start talking about: – Why I almost didn’t start this podcast – The pressure women put on themselves to not be “too much” – The emotional Mother’s Day moment that really stayed with me – My current recommendations, including: The Emma Grede/Bethenny Frankel podcast episode New H&M shoes Sunglasses The suede clogs I am convinced everyone needs (you won't believe the brand) Fave sunscreen that is 30% off right now and free shipping Then Karly joins me for part two of our sister series, and we get into a much bigger conversation about fear, reinvention, and making massive life changes later in life and the steps you can take to make your own big secret dream happen. We talk about: – Moving across the world in your 20s vs. your 40s – The fear that comes with getting older and becoming more “settled” – Why so many women stay stuck in lives that no longer fit them – The difference between being happy and actually feeling fulfilled – Starting over, taking risks, and building a life that feels aligned – Why confidence usually comes AFTER action – The mindset shifts that helped us stop playing small – The “worst case scenario” thinking that actually helped make big decisions easier This episode feels like sitting in the car with your friends while the conversation somehow spirals from motherhood… to identity… to business… to fear… to chasing bigger dreams for yourself. If there’s something in your life that you keep talking yourself out of because it feels too scary, too late, or too unrealistic… this one is for you. Because maybe the people doing the scary thing aren’t actually more special than you. Maybe they just started. Check out my sister at @influencemediaco and follow along. Don’t forget to like, comment and leave a review. Follow me on Instagram @erincsousa and subscribe to my Substack See you next week! xx, Erin Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!
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