Show Notes
579. Some people can calm a room full of hostile foreign ministers and still go quiet at their own dinner table. On “The Diplomat,” Kate Wyler is that person, and the pattern is more common than it looks. Dr. Judy Ho explains why people who are excellent at reading others often struggle with closeness at home, how emotional labor uses up the same self-regulation that intimacy needs, and why this is a depletion pattern rather than a lack of caring. Then she shares three short, actionable, evidence-based tools: a transition ritual, practicing emotional disclosure on purpose, and catching yourself when you start strategizing with your partner instead of asking a real question.
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