It's Not a Lack of Confidence: How Adapting Around Insecure Men Shrinks Your Voice with James Dakin
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What if what looks like a lack of confidence is actually years of adapting yourself around other people? In this eye-opening episode of The Self Esteem and Confidence Mindset, we sit down with James Dakin, British transformational coach and author with more than thirty years of experience working with people and organisations around the world, to explore why so many women feel they've lost their confidence, their voice, and their sense of self.
James is a world authority on how women adapt around insecure men, partly because he spent the first part of his own life becoming exactly the kind of man he now helps women navigate. He shares what he's learned from both sides of the pattern, and why the problem often isn't a lack of self-esteem at all. It's the slow, often unnoticed habit of shrinking, softening, and editing yourself to keep the peace.
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