EP 011: What No One Tells You About Parenthood | Hormones, Hair Loss & Losing Motivation
Hot Messes, Big VisionsShow Notes
No one warns you that parenthood can change your body, your energy, and even your motivation — and that it’s not because you’re lazy, failing, or “not coping well enough.” In this episode of Hot Messes, Big Visions, Nikki and Sophia talk honestly about the parts of parenthood that rarely get said out loud: hair loss, hormone shifts, emotional exhaustion, and the quiet loss of motivation so many parents experience after having kids. This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening — and realising you’re not alone. • Why hair loss after kids is more common than we admit • How hormones impact motivation, mood, and energy • Why “rest” doesn’t always fix exhaustion • The guilt parents carry for not bouncing back • Why this isn’t a personal failure — it’s a support gap • How naming the reality can be the first relief If you’ve ever thought “Why am I still so tired?” or “What’s wrong with me?” — this episode is for you. 🎧 New episodes every week 💛 Share this with a parent who needs to hear it In this episode, we talk about: Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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We finally got Jacqlin Richards on the pod and she did not hold back. Parenting Alchemist. Award-winning educator. Author of the best book title we have ever heard: F*ck Up Your Kids with Grace & Humour. Jacqlin used to be the fun police, the sugar police, the screen police. Blow-drying her hair before a run. Holding it all together while falling apart behind closed doors. Now she actually enjoys her kids, and in this episode she tells us exactly what changed. We talk about: ✨ the perfection trap and why it keeps mums isolated ✨ the love languages exercise her whole family did (steal this one) ✨ why losing your sh*t isn't the problem, the repair is what counts ✨ screens, fear, and getting your kids' buy-in instead of policing them Her book hits Amazon on 28 July and there are a handful of signed pre-order copies left. Pre-order also gets you free access to her live workshop series. Link in bio, or head to jacqlinrichards.com/preorder. Listen wherever you get your podcasts. Then share it with your village 💛 @jacqlinrichards #HotMessesBigVisions #ParentingPodcast #NZPodcast #RealParenting #MumLife #TheVillageCo Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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