What's going on up there?

Have We Met Before? Remembering Names and Faces

What's going on up there?

Show Notes

We’ve all had that awkward moment where we recognise someone instantly, but their name has completely vanished. Why does that happen? And are we really worse with names than faces, or does it just feel that way? In this episode, Grace is joined by Chartered Psychologist Dr Jo Kandola explore one of the most relatable mysteries of human memory. From everyday social slip-ups to the psychology of recognition and recall, they unpack why names can be so difficult to remember and what that reveals about how memory actually works. Along the way, they delve into research on metamemory and the brilliantly named “Butcher on the Bus” phenomenon, revealing why our intuitions about memory are not always as reliable as they seem. If you’ve ever smiled confidently at someone while silently panicking over what they’re called, hopefully this episode will make you feel a little less embarrassed.

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