Show Notes
My Linguistics Lounge series lifts linguistic theories and frameworks off the page and into the lived experiences of experts on Substack. It was such a pleasure talking to Des Kennedy about how language shapes creative teams. Language, Belonging, and How Ideas Move Des came to this conversation with something most facilitators don’t name: accent and voice aren’t just communication choices. They’re markers of belonging. He also sees language is also cultural infrastructure. He’s Geordie. That accent carries baggage—post-industrial, working class, marked as lesser from the outside. Early in his career, he learned to code-switch: professional, casual, dialect. Three separate performances. It’s a survival strategy. It’s also evidence of a system that measures credibility by how closely you match a narrow register. What I love about his work is that he designs conditions so that survival strategy becomes unnecessary. He talks about what’s actually happening in workshops where ideas die or travel. Where knowledge gets stuck between individual, team, and organisational levels. Where people perform expertise instead of thinking. We talked about the Spectrum Policy—a simple structural shift. Instead of immediate evaluation, groups have to find value in an idea first. It sounds small. But it changes what’s safe to say. It protects exploratory thinking, hedging, the tentative language of genuine curiosity. The things that get dismissed the moment someone with lower hierarchical status speaks them. For me, the real insight from this 1.5 hour chat (!), is how the mechanisms that silence voices also suppress knowledge transfer. They’re not two problems. They’re one system. Fix the speaking conditions and knowledge starts moving. That’s infrastructure repair. We spent time on what people won’t say in organisations. That silence is the actual diagnosis. It tells you everything about what registers count, whose expertise gets trusted, who belongs in the room. We talked about Substack. LinkedIn versus a dinner party with friends thinking about interesting things. The difference between conductivity (the connective tissue between people who actually understand each other) and follower counts. Why relationships matter as much as the people in them. And we went thirty minutes over. But it just shows how good conversation and ideas do travel. Listen for where Des talks about allyship. About how people with hierarchical advantage have to use that leverage to expose what’s happening beneath the surface. About why some accents travel further than others, and what that means about who gets heard. Language is infrastructure. Infrastructure can be repaired. For more Linguistics Lounge content, check out my last one with Cristina and Anna | how to boss ai on accents.
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