190. Internal vs External safety in relationships - which do you depend on?
Master Your Relationship Mind DramaShow Notes
When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm. Can you relate? If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety. And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle. So you can feel emotionally safe and secure - regardless of what’s going on outside of you. Mentioned in the episo...
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