The Patriarchy Harms Us All: A Look at Male Depression with Haley Graham, LICSW
Books From Your TherapistShow Notes
In this episode we’re talking with Haley Graham, licensed clinical social worker. The books we chat about are I Don’t Want To Talk About it: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real and Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner.
A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don’t Want to Talk About It is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them. Long Island Compromise is an exhilarating novel about one American family and the dark moment that shatters their suburban paradise, from the New York Times bestselling author of Fleishman Is In Trouble.
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