Show Notes
If you've ever thought, "I'm not good enough," despite having the skills, experience and evidence to prove otherwise, you're not alone. In this listener question episode, host Aoife O'Brien explores why capable people often experience self-doubt and why confidence isn't always an accurate reflection of capability. Drawing on insights from her latest Imposter Syndrome Report, she discusses how our childhood experiences, education, workplace environments and past experiences can shape the stories we tell ourselves about our abilities. She also explores the common situations that trigger self-doubt, from starting a new role to receiving feedback, being promoted, comparing ourselves to others or operating outside our comfort zone. Most importantly, she explains why self-doubt isn't just something we think—it influences how we behave, often leading to perfectionism, procrastination, over-preparing, people-pleasing or holding ourselves back from opportunities. In this episode: Why capable people experience self-doubt The difference between confidence and capability How early experiences influence our beliefs about ourselves Common workplace triggers that reignite imposter feelings The behaviours self-doubt can lead to A simple mindset shift to help you challenge those thoughts
Key takeaway Feeling capable and being capable aren't the same thing. Instead of asking yourself, "Do I feel confident enough?" ask, "What evidence do I have that I'm capable?" Resources 📘 Thriving Talent: How Great Leaders Drive Performance, Engagement and Retention Find out more about the book and order your copy here: https://thrivingtalentbook.com 📄 Download the Imposter Syndrome Report https://www.impostersyndrome.ie/report 🎙️ Subscribe to the Happier at Work podcast so you never miss an episode. If you enjoyed this episode, I'd really appreciate it if you could leave a rating or review—it helps more people discover the show. Website: https://happieratwork.ie LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aoifemobrien/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HappierAtWorkHQ
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