17. Perimenopause + Body Image: Can You "Prevent" Menopause Weight Gain? (Q&A)
Full But Not FinishedShow Notes
In this Q&A episode, I answer three listener questions that sit right at the intersection of body image, recovery, hormones, and nervous system patterns—especially in midlife. First: a listener in perimenopause is struggling with body acceptance and has convinced herself she needs to lose weight now to "get ahead" of the weight gain she expects menopause will bring. We start by naming what this fear is really asking for, and what it costs to try to solve it through control. Second: a listener notices a strong sense of urgency around cooking—food feels allowed and safe, but the act of cooking feels rushed, and the restless energy doesn't stop after the meal. We look at what urgency can mean when it's more about physiology than food rules, and why it shows up differently depending on context. Third: a listener asks about eating with PMS and describes extreme hunger and cravings for higher-calorie, processed foods in the week before her period. We talk about how to relate to cyclical hunger without turning it into panic, moral judgment, or a new restriction project. If you have a question you want me to answer on a future Q&A, send it in—and if you enjoy the show, a rating/review helps more people find it.
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