Debrief | Mirroring & Performative Therapy in Shannon's Story | Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of AbuseShow Notes
In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the patterns in Shannon’s story, beginning with the cognitive dissonance created by the caring family man her husband appeared to be and the frightening reality she experienced behind closed doors. Because he maintained that image for years, each new incident could feel like an exception or something the relationship might still recover from.
The debrief explores the sunk-cost effect, the intact-family trap, escalating boundary tests, performative therapy, shame and self-blame, and the use of police, courts, housing, and parenting to continue the abuse after separation. It also examines why Shannon stayed, how her compassion was used against her, and why the pressure intensified whenever she tried to reclaim control over her life.
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