234. Drop the Shame and Quit Alcohol Like a Boss with Jessica Clark

What happens when the thing you believe makes you happy is actually making your life harder? In episode 262 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick welcomes former coaching client Nick to share his journey from drinking most nights to approaching two years alcohol-free. What started as social drinking during college gradually became a daily habit. A few beers after work turned into five or six drinks a night, frequent blackouts and a constant cycle of anxiety, regret and promises to do things differently. Nick knew something needed to change, but for a long time he believed alcohol was the only way he could relax, unwind and feel happy. Eventually, he reached a point where he'd had enough. In this honest conversation, Nick shares what helped him change his relationship with alcohol, the challenges he faced along the way and why learning to understand his emotions has been one of the most unexpected rewards. Some of the things they explore include: How social drinking gradually became a daily habit

Have you ever decided you weren't going to drink, only to find yourself negotiating with that familiar voice in your head a few hours later? "You've had a long week." "Just a couple won't hurt." "You can always start again on Monday." Sound familiar? In episode 261 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, men's life and sober coach Patrick Fox explores why the voice telling you to drink isn't necessarily the voice you need to listen to. Our brains are brilliant at learning habits, and sometimes the urge to drink is simply an echo of past behaviours rather than a reflection of what we genuinely want. Patrick shares a personal experiment he's been trying to interrupt habitual urges: talking to himself out loud. It might sound a little strange, but speaking out loud can help break the hypnotic spell of an urge, interrupt familiar thought patterns and reconnect you with the decisions you've already made. In this episode, Patrick explores: Why drinking urges can feel so convincing, even when you've decided to stop drinking.

Ben Coombes loved skiing, but each trip seemed to pull him back into the same cycle of heavy drinking, anxiety and feeling as though he wasn’t living up to his potential. In episode 260 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick talks with Ben about the decision to spend an entire ski season alcohol-free. What began as a challenge to himself became Soberski, a way for others to enjoy the mountains without the expectation to drink. Ben shares how he built confidence one commitment at a time, why he was surprised by the support he received in a party resort, and what happened when he put his energy into something he cared about. Awesome things you’ll hear about: Why a frightening health scare didn’t immediately change Ben’s drinking

Have you ever noticed that once you feel annoyed, stressed or anxious, your mind starts finding even more reasons to feel that way? In episode 259 of The Alcohol ReThink podcast, Patrick shares a story about a difficult school run, that invloved four dog poos and a full-blown argument with an environmental officer who didn’t actually exist. It became a funny but revealing example of how the mind can take a familiar emotion and build an entire story around it. Patrick explores the idea of your “emotional home,” the feelings you return to so regularly that they begin to feel like part of who you are. He explains how your emotional state can influence what you notice, remember and imagine, and why this can turn a frustrating moment into a bad day. He also looks at how these emotional patterns can fuel the desire to drink, why alcohol only provides temporary relief and how awareness can help you interrupt the cycle without judging or suppressing what you feel. Awesome things you’ll hear about: The imaginary argument that revealed what Patrick’s mind was doing

What does 'doing the work' mean once not drinking is no longer the main focus of your life? In episode 258 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick explores how the work changes as someone matures in sobriety. In the beginning, it might mean managing alcohol cravings, changing routines and understanding drinking patterns. But as alcohol becomes less important, the focus begins to shift from how to stop drinking towards what to do with the life, energy and clarity that sobriety has created. Patrick explores the difference between contentment and complacency, why life after quitting alcohol can begin to feel ordinary and how personal growth can become another way of telling yourself that you’re still not good enough. This episode is for anyone who has made good progress with alcohol but has started to feel as though life is simply happening around them. Get ready to hear about: How “doing the work” evolves in long-term sobriety Why alcohol becoming quiet is both progress and a potential risk The difference between enjoying life and disengaging from it How to avoid turning sobriety into another self-improvement project One practical question to help you reconnect with your life