234: Stephen Jenkinson - Can the Afflicted Process the Affliction?
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In this episode, I speak again with Stephen Jenkinson about his new book, Trembling Still, his experiences with Parkinson's disease, and his profound insights on life, death, diagnosis, and acceptance. We explore themes of vulnerability, trust, and finding beauty in suffering, offering deep reflections on the human condition. Check out his books and tour via his website: https://orphanwisdom.com Keywords: Stephen Jenkinson, Trembling Still, Parkinson's, life and death, vulnerability, acceptance, human experience, grief, resilience, art and suffering
Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Stephen Jenkinson and Trembling Still 02:15 Stephen's journey with Parkinson's and the impact on life 04:57 The origins and purpose of Trembling Still 09:23 Confronting the last day of life as known 15:34 Trust, doubt, and the experience of affliction 20:54 The increase of neurodegenerative diseases and societal implications 29:39 The long road of suffering and the search for meaning 40:46 Art, poetry, and making sense of the senseless 50:54 Living with vulnerability and the courage to be seen 54:42 Witnessing and the infrastructure of healing 58:44 Practical insights: zippers, buttons, and living with aging 01:02:28 Closing thoughts: living fully with mortality and joy _______________________________________ Follow me on Instagram, @LongDistanceLoveBombs: https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs Check out my coaching and speaking: https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com Read my Substack: https://substack.com/@longdistancelovebombs Check out a list of my favorite books here: https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs _______________________________________
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