Second Adolescence

Ep 55: Rohan Shirolkar (he/him) on Healing the Shameful Differentness Our Younger Selves Internalized

Second Adolescence

Show Notes

This week’s guest is Rohan Shirolkar (he/him). As a husband and new father, Rohan’s story has taken him to a place he didn’t see possible at its beginning, growing up as a gay boy in India in the 1980s/1990s. On this episode, Rohan shares with us his story and journey of navigating and understanding his identity, confronting and healing from anti-queerness, and eventually getting to the place of feeling such sense of freedom today. I SO loved getting to have Rohan on the show, and was so move...

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