#19: Roy Grant - Patience

Welcome to episode 19 of Edge Within with Mat Davenport.

In this grounded and genuine conversation, I sit down with Roy Grant, surfer, builder, founder of Ink & Foam a man who has spent 68 years learning to adapt, stay curious and live with gratitude, to explore what it really means to build a life on your own terms.

From navigating multiple father figures and eight different schools to opening a surf shop in his 50s with no roadmap, Roy shares the wisdom of a man who learned everything the hard way. We explore generational programming, the lost art of real communication, health as the foundation of everything, and why purpose doesn't retire when you do.

We dive deep into surfing as a teacher of patience, the courage to walk through unknown doors, what healthy masculinity actually looks like, building InConform from passion not profit, grief and death without fear, and why the world needs more honest conversations between generations.

This episode is a reminder that it's never too late to begin again, and that the most important things in life are patience, kindness and the guts to be yourself.

TOPICS COVERED Surfing as a life teacher: patience and discomfort The lost art of dropping in unannounced Generational programming and unconscious parenting Covid, sovereignty and critical thinking Three father figures and a turbulent upbringing Mentors who shaped Roy's character and work ethic Building InConform: purpose over profit Healthy masculinity and the peaceful warrior Grief, death and the spirit that lives on Fatherhood as the greatest rite of passage Walking through the unknown door with pure faith Patience, gratitude and the message to the young

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TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Welcome to the Chaos: Rolling With It 0:55 What Surfing Really Teaches You 5:34 Mat on Letting Go of What Isn't for You 6:49 Ashes to the Ocean: Life, Death and Reincarnation 8:34 The Miracle of You Being Here 10:27 An Educated Mind Can Entertain Any Subject 12:49 Covid, Coercion and Critical Thinking 15:33 Unconscious Parents and the Generational Loop 18:27 The Death of Dropping In: Real Communication Is Disappearing 21:43 Laid on the Bed and Chose Action Over Self-Pity 22:24 If You're Not Yourself You're No One 27:49 Leaving School at 15 and Building Anyway 43:15 Patriotism, Roots and Belonging 52:45 Mentors Who Filled the Father Gap 1:00:29 Introducing InConform: The Brand and the Why 1:05:02 The Peaceful Warrior: What Healthy Masculinity Looks Like 1:10:02 It Keeps Me Alive: Purpose in the Later Chapters 1:15:10 Patience, Gratitude, Gut: Message to the Young 1:22:16 Facing Death Without Fear 1:25:32 Becoming a Father: The Biggest Rite of Passage 1:32:22 Yesterday History, Tomorrow Mystery, Today a Gift 1:39:09 The Octopus, Blue Zones and Passing Down Knowledge 1:50:50 Walking Through the Unknown Door 1:52:24 Discipline, Routines and Knowing When to Rest 1:53:06 Wrap Up and Gratitude