What Men Carry (And How To Put It Down) | Why Unprocessed Grief is Costing You More Than You Know with Dan Foster
Don't Let The Old Man InShow Notes
Dan Foster is the CEO of the Centre for Men and Families, a rites of passage organisation heavily influenced by the work of Richard Rohr. After spending years in ministry and theology, Dan found himself in the middle of his own midlife deconstruction — which is exactly where his work now lives. The Centre runs two programs: one for young men navigating the first half of life, and one for men in midlife and beyond who've ticked all the boxes and still feel the ache.
This conversation is for every man who's hit 40, 45, or 50 and quietly wondered — is this all there is? It's also for the man who's been carrying something for decades and hasn't yet found a safe enough place to put it down.
Books mentioned: Adam's Return by Richard Rohr Iron John by Robert Bly Falling Upward by Richard Rohr Also referenced: Poetry of David Whyte and Rumi Documentary: The Manosphere Bruce Springsteen on "trying to get home to a home he never had" Other men's work mentioned: Men's Tables — David Pontin Men's Circles UK — Pascoe Ashton Mongrels Men Sydney — Tim Houston
Connect with Dan Foster & the Centre for Men and Families: [centreformenandfamilies.com]
00:00 — Intro & Welcome 02:35 — Richard Rohr, Adam's Return, and the 5 Hard Truths 07:14 — You're not in control — and why that's actually good news 08:27 — Mens Programs - Forged (18–30) and Men's Rite of Passage (30+) 15:05 — Why rituals work — the 3 reasons men open up 20:25 — Men communicate better side by side — fire, circles, and brotherhood 24:44 — What men actually leave with: relief, peace, self-acceptance 31:36 — The manosphere, elders, and what young men are really hungry for 41:39 — Whatever you don't process, you project
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