How to Discover Yourself, One Decision at a Time | Sara Kuburic
The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & PurposeShow Notes
In this episode, Dr. Sara Kuburic discusses how to discover yourself, one decision at a time. Questions like: Who are you beyond your job, your relationships, and the roles you fill? Drawing from her book, It’s on Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Yourself, and Change Your Life, Sara shares how she lost touch with herself while building a life that looked good from the outside. She also explores why understanding your past is only part of creating change, how taking responsibility differs from blaming yourself, and how small, intentional choices can help you build a life that feels like your own.
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Key Takeaways:
How living according to what you think you should want can leave you disconnected from yourself.
Why understanding the roots of your behavior doesn’t automatically change it—and how everyday choices help turn insight into action.
How to take responsibility for your healing without blaming yourself for what happened to you.
Why discovering yourself is an ongoing practice, rather than a single breakthrough.
How recognizing the choices behind familiar obligations can restore a sense of freedom and agency.
Why authenticity sometimes means making an uncomfortable decision that aligns with your values.
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