Show Notes
We talk a lot about what happens to women when they become mothers-but what happens to men when they become dads? This week, I’m sitting down with dad of four, attorney, entrepreneur, and Come Together podcast host Abe Lichy for a conversation about the side of parenthood we don’t hear nearly enough about: what dads are actually going through.
We talk about the pressure men feel to provide, protect, and quietly fix everything, why keeping that stress from your partner can actually create more distance in a marriage, and the surprisingly simple ways we can make each other feel seen after having kids. Plus, we get into raising children in a world of iPhones, Roblox, social media, and AI, why Abe wants his kids to have as much of an analog childhood as possible, and what reality TV has taught both of us about identity, attention, and knowing who you are outside of the version people see on screen.
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In this episode:
-Why dads often hide their stress instead of talking about it
-How trying to “protect” your partner can create resentment in a marriage
-The pressure men feel to provide, protect, and hold everything together
-Why acknowledging your partner can make a bigger difference than you think
-Raising kids without smartphones and social media
-Why Abe refuses to give his 11-year-old an iPhone
-The problem with Roblox and the endless-loop economy of kids’ technology
-Giving kids an “analog” childhood in an increasingly digital world
-Reality TV, identity, and the danger of becoming addicted to attention
-What Abe hopes his four kids will someday say about him as a dad
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