Leadership Lab: Confidence Skills, Emotional Intelligence, and Career Growth for Women Leaders

Positive Intelligence for Women Leaders: How to Name Your Saboteur and Take Back Control

Leadership Lab: Confidence Skills, Emotional Intelligence, and Career Growth for Women Leaders

Show Notes

The voice telling you you're not ready? It has a name. And you can stop it. Positive Intelligence for women leaders is the framework Jamie McKinney wished she had found sooner. She found it at the lowest point of her life, and when it worked where everything else had failed, she knew it had to be part of the Leadership Lab. Through the story of Sydney, a driven and capable woman who spent 11 months rehearsing a conversation with her boss and never had it, Jamie breaks down why the gap is rarely about skill. It's about thought patterns. And thought patterns are completely changeable. She introduces PQ, the mental fitness framework that sits underneath both IQ and EQ, and explains why it's the most malleable of the three. You'll learn how to spot the saboteur voice in your head, how to measure where you stand with a PQ Score Assessment, and how to use a five-step operating system to stop reacting and start responding. Sydney's score went from 23 to 74 in three months. Same woman, same job, same boss. Different mental operating system. This is the episode for anyone who knows they're capable of more but keeps getting in their own way.

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Your Mindset Is the Real Career Barrier 02:26 How Negative Thoughts Work (And Why You Have More Power Than You Think) 04:53 Sydney's Story: When Self-Doubt Blocks Career Growth 07:19 What Is Positive Intelligence for Women Leaders 09:45 How to Read Your PQ Score 11:53 How Sydney Went from a 23 to a 74 in Three Months 14:19 PQ Reps: Your Mental Fitness Workout 32:56 Saboteur vs. Sage: Hyperachiever and Stickler Compared 37:40 The Five-Step PQ Operating System 41:03 How to Hear Your Saboteur and Steer It 45:25 Take the Free PQ Score Assessment and Saboteur Quiz

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