Crappy to Happy

Lessons I've Learned Since Being Evicted

Crappy to Happy

Show Notes

We got evicted. The subsequent upheaval has revealed a lot to me about how my own nervous system patterns show up, especially when things feel uncertain or out of control. While my situation is personal, this experience is universal so in this ep, I'm sharing why our default stress response is often to push through, people please, overwork, or avoid decisions, even if we destroy ourselves in the process.

Many of the behaviours we criticise ourselves for are actually safety strategies that we learned early to protect us when we feel emotionally unsafe. I break down the different nervous system stress responses and explain how they show up in everyday life, work, and relationships.

Most importantly, I share why self awareness alone isn’t enough to create change, and why working with your nervous system, rather than against it, is essential if you want to feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control of your choices. What you’ll learn: How your nervous system prioritises safety over logic and long term goals The four main stress responses and how they show up in daily life Why pushing through discomfort often keeps you stuck How people pleasing, overworking, avoidance, and perfectionism develop Why insight doesn’t automatically translate into behaviour change What it actually takes to make decisions from a calmer, more regulated place If you’ve ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns you’re very aware of, this episode will help you understand what’s really driving them, and where to begin if you want something to change.

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